First of all, I would like to say that Valentine’s Day has always been one of my favorite holidays. Loving yourself enough to love someone else is such an amazing feeling.
And to whom does your love life concern? Well, it concerns anyone we let into our lives. Do we let people love or abuse us? What boundaries have we set for our beautiful lives?
As we continue through the start of another new year, it is important to start any new relationships strong, while remembering to be heard, be seen and be visible. Always have a voice in any given situation, and let love be your compass that allows yourself to always be first on your list. As we cherish ourselves and the loved ones around us, remember to wear those rose-colored glasses. Life is so precious, and if you want to say something or do something for someone, don’t wait until it is too late. Live for today, and love for today.
As I continue to talk about relationships, I just wanted to share that I celebrated my 25th anniversary with my husband, and sometimes even good relationships over time can get derailed. So many of us take the easy way out when times get rough, while others use tough times as a wake-up call. I have always heard the saying, “The grass always looks greener on the other side of the street…” until the same weeds come out. Learn to listen and hear, because that will become the strength in your relationships. Seek professional help if needed or talk through difficult situations with a mediator. If you and your partner have mutual respect, stick with it, because the rewards will be well worth it. Take some time out of your daily life to celebrate your lives together. We all make appointments for business, medical and dental reasons, so go ahead and make an appointment to stay connected with your partner.
Valentine’s Day is approaching, which is another great day to celebrate with your partner, but why wait? Schedule date nights on a regular basis. A great ritual for staying connected with your partner is to have a weekly conversation about how the past week has gone for each of you, while being open to hearing the pros and cons of each other’s stories and thoughts. Remember that it’s better to hear about concerns and be given the opportunity to fix them before they spin out of control.
Happy Valentine’s Day! Remember, while you’re loving everyone else, to also love yourself!
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